3 Asian Stereotype Parenting Practices You Should Follow (5 minute read)

Although I hate being put in a box, stereotypes can sometimes be true for an individual. It's this observed behaviour that is generalized about a group of people who share a cultural/ethnic background. It's the generalizing part that annoys me.I am someone who was shaped by a mosaic of Western and Eastern experiences. Defining my identity as a Chinese-Canadian mom is an ongoing journey. 

Last week, I talked about Asian stereotype parenting practices that I experienced as a child and will not follow

This week, to defy being a stereotypical Asian-Canadian kid who rejects her culture, I'm going to share 3 Asian parenting practices that I see value in and will instill into my role as mom.

I've already talked about the preservation of languageChinese medicine, and superstitions. What about food?

I mainly cook Chinese food. I'm a Foodie. I married a Foodie. My friends are Foodies. 

Do you know any Asian person who ISN'T a foodie? Or am I stereotyping now?

I digress.

3 Asian Stereotype Parenting Practices You Should Never Follow (4 minute read)

When I read or hear about Asian stereotypes, I get this burning urge to talk about it. It's like this weird gut feeling that just makes me want to stir shit up. I've always been one of those kids who takes pleasure in defying stereotypes. I hate being put in a box. 

Don't assume I'm submissive because of some show you saw about Asian women. 

Don't assume I'm a whitewashed banana because your Asian friend is. 

Don't assume I don't know English because every time you see an Asian person, they're talking, "Ching Chong". 

When I became a mom, I started doing a ton of self-reflection (one of the reasons I started a blog in the first place) because I struggled with what I wanted to preserve as an Asian parent and what I thought needed to go. 

Becoming a parent allows you to re-live your life but this time you get to help shape the journey. You're not in control of it.

And so I spend a lot of time ruminating hypothetical situations that could happe…

3 Minutes With Fellow Asian Mom and Founder of Yay Sunshine, Faith Smith

Faith Smith is an Australian-Asian momma who started Yay Sunshine, an amazing company that specially designs Asian-fit sunglasses (or sunnies).I've always had trouble finding the right sunglasses for my face and I just accepted it. Then one day, I started seeing Asian models with beautiful sunglasses in my Instagram feed. I was inspired by Faith's story and how she is doing what she loves so I decided to message her and ask a few questions. What is the biggest motivation to start your own business?My background is in marketing and advertising. Before becoming a mum, I worked for a big ad agency, which was definitely "work hard, play hard". 

When you’re young, the later nights and camaraderie are great. When you are a little older, the 10pm finishes feel less glamorous!

I started Yay Sunshine when I was on maternity leave, and I had a bit of spare time to think (in between keeping a small human being alive) - I wanted to see how I could create a better work-life balance.

How Therapy Can Make You A Better Asian Mom (5 minute read)

Does the word therapy still relate to"crazy people"? Like, "Wow, there must be something seriously wrong with you!" "Can't you just keep that shit inside or talk to your friends about that over some wine and call it a night?"

You may not say that out loud but you may believe that. Your view of therapy depends on your level of understanding of what it is and your inherent biases (how you were raised/social/cultural influences).

When I was growing up, the idea of getting help for your mental health was rarely talked about. And when it was discussed, it was usually about a Hong Kong celebrity going to rehab.

So 90's Hollywood movies and TV shows became my source of information.

In the sitcoms or romantic comedies, the line "Well my therapist says..." would be something a kooky character would say to the main character as a joke.

Cue Laugh Track...jump to the next scene

In dramas, I'd see unhappy couples on the verge of divorce going to therap…

5 Steps to Having a Better Relationship With Your Asian Parent (Part 5 of 5) - (3 minute read)

Although the title of this series is "5 Steps to Having a Better Relationship With Your Asian Parent," it really isn't about steps. Just because you've completed some steps doesn't mean you get your reward. It's not a recipe where you get to have your cake and eat it too. 

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Click for Step 3 (How?)
Click for Step 4 (When?)

The journey to improving any connection with another is actually a cycle. And at the end of the first cycle, you need to reassess, take a look at who you are and do some self-reflection before you start your second cycle. 

Personally, I've been on this journey to improve my relationship with my dad for over 5 years and I'm still on it. 
A few months ago, I'm in my car about to leave an off-site meeting to go back to the office. 

My phone 'pings.' I want to check it but I don't. My mind is wondering who the email is from when I begin backing out of the parking spot.  All of a sud…