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Collaborating with Tiny Eyes Comics: Why I Love My Mom (Part 2 of 3) - (3 minute read)

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Here is part 2 of Why I Love My Mom seriesClick here for Part 1 Have you ever done the 5 Languages of Love assessment? You take a test and you find out which way you like to receive love: Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Quality Time
Physical Touch

Mine is a tie between Words of Affirmation and Quality Time.

I've never asked my mom to do the test but I'm assuming they are Quality Time and Acts of Service.

We share one of our primary love languages so it's easy to show our love to each other that way; however, for the ones that we don't share, it takes effort because they don't come naturally to us.

I'm not a service person. I don't show my love by doing things for other people and I don't naturally feel loved when others do things for me. I can come off as unappreciative and entitled...just ask my husband who waters my plants every morning.

However, over the years of self-reflection (Really, it's about growth and maturity, dropping the ego…

Collaborating with Tiny Eyes Comics: Why I Love My Mom (Part 1 of 3) - (3 minute read)

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One day when I was doing my zombie scroll down Instagram lane, I stumbled upon Tiny Eyes comics. Tiny Eyes is a comic series that shares slices of everyday life from a Chinese perspective. The series aims to create a fun, intimate and authentic space for those who are curious about China.

I was inspired by these comics so I reached out to Siyu, the artist behind Tiny Eyes to collaborate. I love how her comics give me a fun and light-hearted way to understand my culture better. There were so many that I could relate to, especially the ones about my mom.

So we decided to start a 3-part series, using her comics to help tell my personal stories about how much I love my mom. 

Hope you enjoy!
Every mother-daughter relationship is different. Some women can only tolerate their mothers for a moment before needing to exit the room. Other women can hang out with their moms every freaking day. 

Some are estranged and some lost their mothers too soon to figure out where they stand. 

My mom and I are som…

Asian Parenting: Crying, Comparing and Hitting - Newstalk1010 Audio Cut (8 minute listen)

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This week, I had the opportunity to be a guest on Newstalk 1010's Night Side show to talk about my latest HuffPost blog contribution.





I chatted with Richard Crouse about my story of starting Sum On Sleeve and my perspective of stereotypical Asian parenting practices
NEWSTALK 1010 is Toronto's source for breaking news, traffic and weather. 

The segment aired on July 30th, 2018 at 8:30pm EST.

It was my first time on radio and what an exhilarating experience. (I wish I didn't say so many "ums" and "likes" but I'll live and learn). 
Click below to listen: Let's Socialize...C'mon, You Know You Wanna

3 More Hidden Secrets for Finding The One (5 minute read)

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My blog post about 3 Hidden Secrets to Finding the One has been one of my most popular posts (aside from the Asian Parenting ones).It's my way of tracking this information so that when my daughter enters the dating world, I have tangible advice to give and not some bullshit excuse that I'm too old to remember (which is what my mom told me). 

The first post was mainly about figuring yourself out and what you need, want and deserve out of a relationship so that you don't get treated like shit (SPOILER alert: Stop treating yourself like shit). 

So I've decided to reveal a further 3 secrets.

Here are some things that I used to help me stay sane during that intense, roller-coaster dating phase of my life:
1. Don't abuse technology (and don't let it abuse you)We've all heard this about online dating. You know, how it's basically converted humans into swipe robots. 

Two people go on a first date. They have a good connection. They enjoy each others' company. The…

3 Asian Stereotype Parenting Practices You Should Follow (5 minute read)

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Although I hate being put in a box, stereotypes can sometimes be true for an individual. It's this observed behaviour that is generalized about a group of people who share a cultural/ethnic background. It's the generalizing part that annoys me.I am someone who was shaped by a mosaic of Western and Eastern experiences. Defining my identity as a Chinese-Canadian mom is an ongoing journey. 

Last week, I talked about Asian stereotype parenting practices that I experienced as a child and will not follow

This week, to defy being a stereotypical Asian-Canadian kid who rejects her culture, I'm going to share 3 Asian parenting practices that I see value in and will instill into my role as mom.

I've already talked about the preservation of languageChinese medicine, and superstitions. What about food?

I mainly cook Chinese food. I'm a Foodie. I married a Foodie. My friends are Foodies. 

Do you know any Asian person who ISN'T a foodie? Or am I stereotyping now?

I digress.
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3 Asian Stereotype Parenting Practices You Should Never Follow (4 minute read)

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When I read or hear about Asian stereotypes, I get this burning urge to talk about it. It's like this weird gut feeling that just makes me want to stir shit up. I've always been one of those kids who takes pleasure in defying stereotypes. I hate being put in a box. 

Don't assume I'm submissive because of some show you saw about Asian women. 

Don't assume I'm a whitewashed banana because your Asian friend is. 

Don't assume I don't know English because every time you see an Asian person, they're talking, "Ching Chong". 

When I became a mom, I started doing a ton of self-reflection (one of the reasons I started a blog in the first place) because I struggled with what I wanted to preserve as an Asian parent and what I thought needed to go. 

Becoming a parent allows you to re-live your life but this time you get to help shape the journey. You're not in control of it.

And so I spend a lot of time ruminating hypothetical situations that could happe…