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3 Self-Care Practices That Are Keeping Me Grounded (And How You Can Create Yours) - (7 minute read)

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I have a full-time day job. I'm a mom. I'm a blogger. I have a lot of things going on. It can be overwhelming and almost every month, I reach a breaking point. But somehow, I manage to get myself together, patch up those loose seams and carry on. Last summer, I became fed up of that cycle so I asked myself, "What can I do to minimize the build-up so that the breaking points don't happen?" 

Every day, we are exposed to constant streams of information within access of our fingertips, telling us about the magical ways to live happier, healthier and wealthier. 

We can't do everything and we shouldn't do just anything but we can't do nothing; therefore, I think it's important to put a critical lens on all that information and reflect on what actually works for us. 

I began thinking about all the self-improvement information that I've gathered from workshops, conferences, Ted Talks, podcasts, conversations with friends, co-workers, and family, random a…

How Growing Up As An Asian Kid Translator Helped My Empathy Skills (4 minute read)

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Have you ever seen an Asian mom and her kid at a restaurant and the kid is ordering for the both of them in perfect English and then confirming it with his/her mom in their native language?
I was that kid and still am. How has that affected me as an adult and as a mom?When people ask me what my first job was, I would either say tutor or barista (FYI: 4 years making lattes and serving customers as a teenager helped me develop life skills I never would have acquired if all I did was school and extracurricular activities...more on kids and part-time jobs another time).

However, these were the first jobs I got paid for. Like many other Asian Canadians, my first real job was being my mom's interpreter and translator. 
When I was really little, my mom's limited English skills weren't an issue because I only spoke Cantonese at home. I understood her and she understood me. That was, until one day at Kindergarten. For Easter, my teacher asked us to bring a hard-boiled egg to school fo…

Breaking The Asian Female Stereotype: Muscles, Power, and Passion (3 minute read)

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One night, I was browsing through one of my husband's CPA magazines when I stumbled upon a short interview with Teresa Yeung, a young, competitive powerlifter who is currently the third strongest woman in Canada (in the 63-kg weight class). There was this picture of her resting a massive barbell on top of her upper back, with her hair in two braids and wearing a singlet that proudly exposed her muscular quads.
I remember as a kid, there was a lack of real, relatable female role models in mainstream media. I couldn't relate to the blonde and tanned athletic physiques of Hollywood stars like Britney Spears or Cameron Diaz. At the same time, I didn't resonate with the rail thin, pale, super feminine Hong Kong Actresses like Gigi Lai or Cecilia Cheung.
I was intrigued to see a fellow Asian Canadian woman pursuing a passion that breaks Asian female stereotypes

So I reached out to Teresa to chat about her story, how her parents felt about her endeavour and any advice she'd gi…

6 Types Of People Who Give Unsolicited Parenting Advice (Ranked In Order of Annoyance) - (4 minute read)

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Unsolicited advice is one of my biggest pet peeves. Oh great, you have the number of a good housecleaner and you're texting that to me as you stand in my "filthy" living room. Did I ask? No! I enjoy basking in my family's dead skin cells. So mind your own damn business. We all get little tips from people now and then but it wasn't until I became a mom that it became ridiculous. Everyone's got an opinion on how to parent because everyone's either a parent or has a parent.

Breastfeed or bottle? Disposable or cloth? Co-sleep or crib? 
"Oh you look so tired! Being a mom is tiring huh? You should stop working because money grows on trees!""There was this news article that talked about kids and screen time and how it's basically turned these kids into demons. Here's a picture!"
Just STFU.

Here is my list of the types of people who like to give unsolicited advice, ranked in order of annoyance.
Ground Zero:These are the only 2 people who ca…

How To Know If You Are A Toxic Friend (And How To Avoid Making Them) - (7 minute read)

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Ah, toxic girlfriends. From Clueless to Mean Girls to Gossip Girl (is it Pretty Little Liars now?), do these only appear in the teenage years?No.

These appear through to adulthood, from college/university to the workplace to motherhood to old age (who's a better grandma?).

Granted, a lot of that nastiness starts in high school and I think some women just never learned their lesson. 

I wish my mom was able to guide me during this time but friendships and relationships weren't exactly dinner table topics. 

So as a record for my daughter (and for anyone else who values good friendships), here are some of my own lessons.

At 16, I was a self-centred, self-absorbed, jealous-laden and gossipy girl who was deeply insecure and constantly competing with her friends to be better than them...and at the same time, struggling privately to manage her depression, self-harm and disordered eating.

As mentioned in a previous post, in Grade 10, I got a boyfriend and became one of those girls who leav…