Showing posts from September, 2018

6 Types Of People Who Give Unsolicited Parenting Advice (Ranked In Order of Annoyance) - (4 minute read)

Unsolicited advice is one of my biggest pet peeves. Oh great, you have the number of a good housecleaner and you're texting that to me as you stand in my "filthy" living room. Did I ask? No! I enjoy basking in my family's dead skin cells. So mind your own damn business. We all get little tips from people now and then but it wasn't until I became a mom that it became ridiculous. Everyone's got an opinion on how to parent because everyone's either a parent or has a parent.

Breastfeed or bottle? Disposable or cloth? Co-sleep or crib? 
"Oh you look so tired! Being a mom is tiring huh? You should stop working because money grows on trees!""There was this news article that talked about kids and screen time and how it's basically turned these kids into demons. Here's a picture!"
Just STFU.

Here is my list of the types of people who like to give unsolicited advice, ranked in order of annoyance.
Ground Zero:These are the only 2 people who ca…

How To Know If You Are A Toxic Friend (And How To Avoid Making Them) - (7 minute read)

Ah, toxic girlfriends. From Clueless to Mean Girls to Gossip Girl (is it Pretty Little Liars now?), do these only appear in the teenage years?No.

These appear through to adulthood, from college/university to the workplace to motherhood to old age (who's a better grandma?).

Granted, a lot of that nastiness starts in high school and I think some women just never learned their lesson. 

I wish my mom was able to guide me during this time but friendships and relationships weren't exactly dinner table topics. 

So as a record for my daughter (and for anyone else who values good friendships), here are some of my own lessons.

At 16, I was a self-centred, self-absorbed, jealous-laden and gossipy girl who was deeply insecure and constantly competing with her friends to be better than them...and at the same time, struggling privately to manage her depression, self-harm and disordered eating.

As mentioned in a previous post, in Grade 10, I got a boyfriend and became one of those girls who leav…

How Showing Affection Has Changed For Asian Parents (4 minute read)

I've mentioned that I only speak Chinese to my daughter as I want to preserve the language. This has now evolved into playing Chinese music videos on YouTube.And my daughter loves G.E.M. (Gloria Tang, 鄧紫棋, a Chinese pop star in her 20's who creates addictive ear candy and eye-catching videos that make all the kiddies dance around like corn popping in the microwave)
One day, a particular video of hers' showed up on the YouTube playlist called A.I.N.Y. "愛你" (Love You)

In this video, it shows an Asian guy and girl kissing passionately, doing a full-on makeout session. No nudity. Just a couple of faces biting each other's lips, tongues dancing plus some skinny, pale arms shimmying around clothed bodies. Quite tame IMHO and relatively harmless for a 2-year-old to watch.

However, this video made me cringe. Like I couldn't sit through the whole thing and watch the make-out scenes because it felt awkward and uncomfortable.

There was nothing wrong with the acting, th…

3 Reactions To Crazy Rich Asians - An Asian Mom Blogger's Perspective (4 minute read)

So recently, my husband and I were able to get away and have a date night (oh just one of those things couples should do every now and then especially when they're busy AF as parents). The hype around Crazy Rich Asians got to me. As mentioned before, I'm not one of those people whofallsprey to FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out). But I had to support my Asian brothers and sisters to contribute to its success. 

They (as in the media and the rest of the world) compare the bigness (is that even a word? I can't think of another one at the moment) of this movie to Joy Luck Club which came out 25 years ago.

I saw that one when I was 7 or 8 and I fell asleep. I also didn't understand why Chinese people spoke English in the movie since all the other movies I was watching at the time were Chinese movies. I'm planning to watch it again and maybe it'll resonate with me more now.

Anyway, I thoroughly enjoyed Crazy Rich Asians but mainly for its visually stunning scenes. I've alway…